Memories that Last 

During my journey of learning to live again amidst grief—a journey that continues to this day in different ways—I would often reflect on the remarkable strength that my husband, Nick, showed consistently. Despite facing his most challenging days, he always managed to find reasons to be grateful and joyful, bearing witness to the goodness of God.

The following story, which I shared in a blog post on July 5, 2010, serves as a powerful reminder that, by anchoring our hope in God and counting our blessings, we can navigate through any challenge life throws our way.

“It seems lately everywhere we go people are striking up conversations with us.....they will ask Nick what happened (most people ask if he was in a car accident). Nick will tell them he has cancer and explains why he has to wear the neck brace.

But what blows me away is hearing him testify how God is working in our lives in so many ways. The miracles that we have seen take place so far. I am never more proud of him as I watch and listen when he speaks about the faith he has in God. I am truly in awe as I watch him, standing there, in that uncomfortable brace, fatigue from the radiation, knowing he is unsure about the future, but still testifying about the goodness, love and grace of our Heavenly Father. It was an awesome thing!” 

This memory is permanently engraved in both my mind and heart. Perhaps you, too, have cherished memories that remind you of the resilience and strength your loved one displayed. I pray they can/will  inspire you with the fortitude to persevere, to recognize your blessings, and to remain steadfast in your faith. 

                                   A Grief Survivor 

You will become a grief survivor! You are already on your way.

You will find the strength to do things that just a short time ago seemed impossible. There will be a moment that you start to realize you are feeling sadness and anxiety a little less. You will begin to embrace the thoughts and memories with enjoyment and laughter. The holidays will eventually sting a little less and new traditions will be born.

This journey you are on is not for the weak. It takes immense courage to forge ahead every hour, minute, and second of every day. But you are doing it and it maybe it looks messy, but it should.....it's grief.

You will truly begin to understand that every healing moment happens with time...in God's timing. And all this while you are being transformed in beautiful ways you never thought possible.

You my friend, have become a grief survivor. - Learning to Live Again Grief Coaching